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Telli Mills, Staff Writer
I am very much in love with my significant other, unfortunately I would rather not squeeze myself into an uncomfortable dress and wear heels to an overcrowded expensive restaurant on February 14th this year; or any other year for that matter. I would much rather sit on the couch and watch movies and eat chinese take-out in sweatpants with my hair in a messy bun. I am not aromantic, or depressed, or “lacking a committed relationship” or any other variation I was supposed to be ‘insulted’ with when exposing my feelings about Valentine’s Day. I appreciate the holiday very much, there are beautiful flowers everywhere, everything is pink and red and the giant teddy bears are adorable. The other thing I appreciate is the day after Valentine’s Day when all of these gifts are 50-75% off at Walmart or Target. I have asked many of my colleagues whether that makes me apathetic or ‘cheap’ or what have you. In my defense, I used to always be single around Valentine’s Day, and I have gotten used to not receiving chocolates or flowers or teddy bears or anything of that caliber. I do not loathe Valentine’s Day, however the hype and credit that it gets is completely unnecessary.
February 14th, is the day in which people all over the world observe Valentine’s Day, in many different ways- most of which I completely disagree with. Way back in the day, St Valentine had died as a martyr on February 14th. He was popular within the Roman Catholic Church for marrying couples who practiced Christianity. Without delving deep into religion, it is easy to see how Valentine was associated with romance and love. Love is a virtue, a gift, and precious. Love is omnipresent, and if you love someone, do you only tell them once a year? That’s exactly the type of excitement that Valentine’s Day receives. Married Couples do it. Teenagers do it. LGBTQ+ couples do it. Best friends do it. Everyone does.
I am not pessimistic, or anything of the sort. I have a deep appreciation for all of the people in my life whether I have romantic relationships with them or not. I refuse to rain on anyone else’s parade on February 14th, I just do not see the massive appeal. I can go out and see my significant other any day. I can give my friends chocolates and teddy bears and flowers any other day. I see no point in spending money and too much time to go to a fancy restaurant and have set reservations and all of the comradery. Valentine’s Day is just another date on the calendar, and it does not deserve all of the hype that it circulates. In fact, my significant other and I aren’t doing anything on February 14th, and we are going to eat ramen noodles, and watch horror movies and cartoons probably on February 16th simply because we can. I didn’t ask for presents or flowers or chocolates or anything. I only asked for his time, and attention, which I can ask for any other day. Valentine’s Day isn’t really all that special in my eyes. It’s a holiday to celebrate love, only why not do that everyday of the year?